Losing a loved one is one of life’s most stressful events and can trigger a major emotional crisis. When someone you love passes away, you experience bereavement, which means “to be deprived by death.” Grieving is a journey that many of us will face at some point in our lives. It is the outward expression of your loss, manifesting physically, emotionally, and psychologically.
For example, crying is a physical expression, while depression is a psychological one. It is crucial to allow yourself to express these feelings. Often, death is a topic that is avoided,
ignored, or denied. Initially, it might seem helpful to distance yourself from the pain, but you cannot avoid grieving forever. Eventually, these feelings will need to be resolved, or they may lead to physical or emotional illness. Grieving can feel confusing, like a rollercoaster of emotions. One moment, you might feel alright, and the next, you might be overwhelmed with sadness or bewilderment. Some people grieve quietly and reflectively, while others express their grief more outwardly or vocally. Both ways are equally valid.
Adjusting to a life without your loved one requires the grieving individual to take on some of the social roles performed by the deceased or to find others who will. For me, the passing of my wife affected every area of my life. Yet, I profoundly experienced His peace as I navigated the days ahead. With the love and support of family, friends, and the church, I was able to cope with Kim’s passing with contentment. There are days when I miss hearing her voice or watching her work from the kitchen table, but her passing has provided me with greater opportunities to strengthen marital bonds between couples.
Recently, I participated in two short-term mission campaigns to Costa Rica and the Dominican Republic. My challenge to couples was to love the one you are with. Love your best friend to the fullest, making the most of every opportunity. Kim is still missed, and I have been given the greater responsibility of sharing our story. Love to the fullest!
